I found this article to be an excellent companion article to my article "The Tao of Relationships" and with permission of the author have provided a link to the complete article that appeared in Psychology Today.
How to Develop Sexual and Romantic Attraction to People who are Good for You.
by Ken Page, LCSW
Sexual attraction can't be forced. Most of us have learned that the hard way. What we haven't been taught is that sexual attractions can be educated. Even if you're relentlessly attracted to bad-boys, bad girls, or to unavailable people, you can still learn how to cultivate your attraction to partners who are good for you. This post will teach some ways to do this. Read More